In our last swap, my partner Dee sent me a little calendar with a simple hint on each page. Here are a few of my favourites:
1. When you're finished with something, put it back where it belongs.
2. Work out what cards you need throughout the year and make them, or buy them, in advance
3. Keep receipts in one place
4. Walk away from gossip
5. Buy clothing you can mix and match
6. Keep a list of odd jobs to be done
7. Lay your clothes out the night before
8. Have everyone have their own bath towel and beach towel
9. Shop for Christmas all year round
10. Keep your car clean and full of fuel
11. Sort your groceries as you put them in your trolley and as you put them through the checkout to make unpacking easier
12. It's easier to stay healthy than to try and reclaim your health once you are ill
13. Buy extra when things are on sale
14. Plan ahead
15. Use a family calendar
16. Establish a plan for emergencies
17. Re- wear your clothes if they are not dirty
18. Teach your children to manage their own money
19. Have a gift wrap box
20. Have an annual retreat to renew your soul
We have just had another wonderful day down at the river.
Whenever the weather is good we pack up our picnic things and our skiing things and head of. We usually have another two families that meet us there so between us there are 7 children.
The good thing about these days are that we all play together. We have learnt to water ski and tube, the kids fish, swim, run around etc. We all ‘play’.
The grown ups all comment about how much fun it is to come together for days of complete relaxation. The good thing is that our kids are with us. They are not wandering the streets or hanging out with other kids or families that may have different values to ours, they are with US. We all hope that if we are an active family that does activities that all ages enjoy, then we will keep our kids from wandering off the path !
Tips For Building a Strong Family
1. Build a Family Identify – give kids a strong sense of who they are. Treat you family as your team. Use positive language such as “ we are the Jones family…” “ The Jones family always…..” make up funny and memorable things about your family.
2. Establish your family values by defining them through the above e.g. “ In the Jones family we treat each other with respect”
3. Develop a strong family history. Children love hearing stories about when you were young, or when they were babies etc. In days gone by oral traditions were very important. We talk so much less now that we all glue ourselves to the TV. So tell your stories to keep the history alive.
4. Develop Family Celebrations. Kids love predictability and rhythm. Celebrate the little things with special dinners or treats. Build up to bigger celebrations such as birthdays and Christmas by preparing weeks in advance. Kids love the suspense and the countdown. Develop Family Traditions by repeating key components of celebrations, for example, 1st December is always the night that we play Christmas carols and unpack the decorations and tree. The children are SO excited by knowing that this is the way it always is.
5. Play together as a family. There is no better way to develop a sense of belonging, than to actually spend time together.
My challenge to you if you still have your children at home, is to simplify things. Don’t be tricked into thinking that if your children aren’t doing 3 after school activities a week that they are ‘missing out’.
What kids are missing out on today is the chance of being kids in a family that is calm and well rounded and most of all loving ! So, slow down. Create routines and rhythms by which you run your house in a smooth manner rather than a frantic timetable of trying to keep up with everyone.
Just stop. Think. And Play.
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